I like to be right.
I LOVE to be right. And not only do I love to be right, I want people to understand when they are wrong. Like, I want to rub their noses in it, make sure they understand what I'm saying, repeat back to me why they are wrong, agree that they are wrong, and apologize for it.
I know, I know. I'm working on it.
Of particular concern are times when I am dealing with asshats. I'm sure you have them in your life, too. Asshats who are oblivious to their idiocy and who somehow, smugly, think they are pulling something over on you. That they're smarter than you.
Anyway, I had this situation come up the other day. I got a phone call, let's just say from someone who is a complete asshat, but who luckily I do not have to deal with on a regular basis.
Back up - the reason she'd called me was to get the lowdown on a planned event that we are all attending in a month or so. I'm evidently organizing this by default. Lucky me.
So the plan is, we'd all go to the event and then get hotel rooms and hang out in the evening, since we are all coming from at least 2 hours away.
Well, Asshat calls me and asks what the situation is, and what she's expected to do. Again, I had no idea I was suddenly planning this, but there you go. So I said I'd think about it and get back to her. I asked if Asshat was planning on staying the night, and she said, no they had to get back for some lame reason.
And I wanted to explain to her that I knew her reason was lame. And I knew that she was acting all put upon and could not possibly commit to staying the night and I was ready to argue that she needed to amend her plans because she was wrong wrong WRONG. Her reasons were ridiculous and not justifiable. And we both knew it. But she thought that she was in the right. WHICH SHE WAS NOT.
And then I stopped.
Because although my arguments were RIGHT, and although Asshat was WRONG, I knew that the best case scenario was to NOT spend that much time with Asshat.
But I'm having a hard time letting it be a win/win situation. Because she is WRONG. And I am RIGHT. And I need people to understand when they are WRONG. And admit it. Even though the best result is to just let it all go. It's o.k. that she wins if I win, too.
And yet it is not. It eats at me.
God. I really am an asshat.