And I have had enough of it when it comes to the PTA.
Years ago, when the girl was a tot, I was president of her cooperative preschool. If you don't know what that is, it's a preschool where there is a paid teacher and the rest of the jobs are done by the families. There is a board which handles licensing, fundraising, educational compliance, etc. It's a business run by moms.
And it was, without a doubt, the best thing for my daughter. And ultimately the worst thing for me.
Because the president? Gets shit on. ALL THE TIME. In every direction. No one is happy. And the best you can hope for is that people will respect you for doing your job and leave you the fuck alone. And being someone what wants to do the job right and have everything go well? Yeah, that makes it really, really hard.
It so soured me on school groups that I did not become a part of the girl's elementary school PTA board. I just chaired some committees and volunteered when I wanted to.
It was working fine, until I was asked to be the PTA president for the girl's last year of middle school. I didn't want to, but after giving it some thought, and listening to the pleas of the old board & president, I said o.k.
What a huge fucking mistake.
It has been a non-stop shit storm of cranky people and incompetent people and things not getting done and everything ending up in my lap - my lap that is already full with a 1.5 hour round trip daily commute to a shitty temp job where my soul is being pummeled while I'm trying to find a permanent job and maybe take care of myself and my family and this house that seems like it just creates more stuff while I'm gone.
I am tired of:
- Being nice to people who are being rude to me.
- Being nice to people who are incompetent.
- Being nice to people who refuse to step up.
- Being the person who gets frantic calls and emails at work. [Although I don't mind the interruption, I do mind that I'm expected to magically fix stuff. I am not Albus Dumbledore.]
- Being ultimately responsible for everything. EVERYTHING.
- Being expected to handle what no one else will handle.
- Being expected to know what's going on for every single aspect of this school of 900+ kids.
- Bearing the brunt of dissatisfaction because things don't run smoothly. It's not my fault that grown ups can't act like grown ups and do what they say they're going to do. And there is absolutely nothing I can do about there not being any hot chocolate when I'm 45 minutes away. FIX IT YOURSELF.
Wish me luck. Or at least the ability to keep my mouth closed.
In other, more pleasant and less foul news, I have a new post up at Secret Society of List Addicts. Go. It's 100% less PTA intensive.